How to Deal with the Disappointment of Losing a Job

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Stepping into the real world for the first time can be really scary and there are not many sources that discuss the ups and downs of entering the job market place. Whether you want to realize it or not it is competitive out there, you are going to be constantly pressing yourself to be better than the next, in a sense the job market is like a shark tank, you eat or be eaten.

The thing is, you will go through many employers in your life and some experiences are going to outright suck, so it is important to know that even though some jobs may be didn’t go as well as you had hoped, there are still a billion more opportunities out there waiting for you to tackle them.

If you were recently let go from a job or are unemployed then you might be going through some trials of your own. Constantly re-thinking where you went wrong, maybe you’re being really hard on yourself and you’re not alone. Statistics Canada states that the unemployment rate for Ontario as of January 2016 is 6.7% of our population and if you’re like me and you are in your 20’s, this will not be the first time you feel disappointed about employment opportunities.

In spirit of trying to overcome this overwhelming feeling of disappointment, here are some great tips from Psychology Today; an article written by F. Diane Barth calledCoping with Disappointment”.

Barth discusses several steps that can help when you or someone you know is having a hard time overcoming disappointment. The following steps can be helpful for many moments of disappoint including dealing with a job loss.

  1. Talk about it, revisiting painful moments can be painful at first but it is much better to discuss these things than to keep them buried inside where they can fester. Talk to friends, relatives or a professional, someone who can help you process these feelings.
  2. Keep in mind there are two sides to every story, before acting on what you might think the situation is, sit back and contemplate things prior to action making.
  3. Place yourself in the other person’s shoes, try to understand their situation from their position, you might have done the same.
  4. Anger is often a result of hurt feelings; address these feeling in a sensitive manner instead of internalizing.
  5. Talking to the person or people who caused your hurt feelings can result in both positive and negative feedback. Ensure you’re clear on what you come to accomplish through your discussion with them and do not attack them, as this will cause no progress. If you can engage with them, try to have a rational discussion about what they did that hurt you and why it hurt you. This can help heal both sides’ hurt or unresolved feelings.

Barth asserts that by recognizing the fact that disappoint is a common human experience, this will help us overcome and deal with the emotional process that inevitably comes with it, but the positive aspect to see is that this helps deepen our capacity to connect with others who have also had these experiences. So if you’re recently dealing with a situation that is disappointing, do not worry, you are not alone and although these feelings may be hard to process right away, they are helping you progress is your own life journey.

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Monday Munch: Fresh Rice Noodle Bowl

“Noodle Bowls” are coming out on top as the new trendy health choice for a lot of people who are looking for an easy and nutritious way to satisfy their hunger. There are tons of variations that you can find now, that are inspired by flavours from all over Asia and beyond, using ingredients you can find right in your local grocery store.  They’re delicious, comforting, fresh, and can be customized to fit even the pickiest of palettes.

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This one we’ve put together for you is the perfect smorgasbord of cheap and flavourful. Incorporating Vietnamese flavours with fresh veggies and marinated tofu, this noodle bowl packs a punch without bruising your wallet in the process.  Today we were feeling pretty fond of cilantro, but of course, if you are one of those people who can’t handle the taste, you can absolutely substitute it for fresh mint, or thai basil.  Also, if you want to make this recipe vegan, you can opt for vegan fish sauce (yes, it exists) or just cut it out altogether.

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INGREDIENTS

Marinated Tofu

1/2 a small onion

1 clove of garlic,

1/3 cup of firm tofu

1 ½ tbsp of lime juice

2 tbsp of hoisin sauce

½ tsp fish sauce

1 tbsp grapeseed oil (or any cooking oil of your choice)

1 pinch of salt

2 chopped cilantro stems

½ tsp of minced lemongrass (fresh or re-constituted dry lemongrass)

½ tsp sriracha

Quick Carrot Pickle

1 medium carrot

1 tbsp rice vinegar

½ tsp fish sauce

½ tsp granulated sugar

Toppings & Noodles

1 4 inch piece of cucumber

¼ of an avocado

¼ of a lime

1 green onion

1/3 cup chopped cilantro leaves

1/5th of a pack of rice vermicelli noodles

The first order of business is our quick pickled carrots.  All you’ll need to do for these is peel and shred your carrot, throw it into a bowl, and mix it with 2 tsp of rice vinegar, ¼ tsp of fish sauce, ¼ tsp of granulated sugar, and a pinch of salt.  Now set that aside to soak in while we prepare to marinate the tofu.

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For the tofu, finely chop the garlic, onion, lemongrass, and cilantro stems and add them to a small bowl.  Thinly slice your tofu and also add that to the bowl, along with your wet ingredients and salt.  Now set that aside.

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Next, chop up the rest of your fresh ingredients into bite sized pieces, and boil some water to cook your rice vermicelli according to the instructions on the package.  We used the super thin kind that can be softened by submerging them in hot water and letting them sit until they become soft.  Once your noodles are soft enough for your liking, rinse them in cold water to stop the cooking process and put them into a bowl.

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In a small pan on medium heat, toss in your marinated tofu and stir fry it until both sides are nicely browned.  Arrange your tofu, carrot pickles, and chopped vegetables on top of your noodles and drizzle with more sriracha and hoisin sauce to your taste.

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Enjoy!

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If you do end up making this noodle bowl, or any of our other recipes, take a pic and tag us in it using the hashtag #themondaymunch.  We’d love to see your creations!